10 Men You Don't Want To Meet
I've been the official Agony Aunt for a bunch of my friends for awhile already and man, I'm a pretty damn good one who specialises in relationship and assholes issues. Why? Cos I've got really good track record of "crash n burn" and I've met endless assholes/jerks/losers/wankers and I've met enough of them to know what they'll do or the tricks people use in the dating games and so that gives me pretty good license to dish out relationship advice....The other day, I was talking to my girl friend about her romantic misadventure with a guy who seemed to be shopping around for a girlfriend while stringing her along and it sucks to know that nice girls like my friend were treated that way and I said to her that she must meet someone decent next and adopt a no rubbish and no assholes approach and suddenly, it dawns on me that I really should write a post about the kind of men you should avoid like the plague! So here you go....
Miss B's list of 10 Men You Don't Want To Meet
1. Mr I'm-not-over-my-ex
They come disguised as someone who's over their ex-es but they're not! And he doesn't even have to be just freshly out of a relationship cos I dated a guy during my uni days who was totally not over his ex despite they've broken up for some time already. Not only did he talk constantly about her, he even used to compare me with his ex and say stuff like "Oh she (the ex) would never do this" or "Oh she loves this color of nail polish too" (I still remember this very vividly...he said it while we were in Guardian Pharmacy....the one in Ang Mo Kio).....And stupidly, I put up with him for 1.5 year...it was the worst 1.5 year cos my self-esteem took such a bad beating after being compared to someone whom he was pining over......If you sense that he's not over his ex, leave.
2. Mr Jealous-possessive-and-bad-temper
It's normal to be jealous but extreme jealousy is bad news cos it means the guy's so insecure that he's got a bit of a psychotic edge. One guy I dated got so damn jealous when I went out for a drink with a guy friend whom I've introduced him to (to make him more comfortable...well, didn't work obviously). He made me go drinking with him the next day on an empty stomach. Naturally, being a loser drinker who once got a concussion from passing out with too much drink, I got tipsy after one drink on an empty stomach and I said I needed to go home cos I was feeling ill...jealous boy got so peeved that while driving home, he angrily jerked the car to a stop in the middle of the road on a hissy fit!!! WTF!? I got a whiplash and when I finally got home, I was puking and he pushed me to the toilet floor saying "How come you can drink with your guy friend but when you drink with me, one drink and you want to go home and now you're puking?"....WTF!!!!!!! So yes, no Mr. Jealous-and-bad-temper please!!!
3. Mr I-have-a-soft-spot-for-you-but-I-have-a-girlfriend/wife-whom-I'm-about-to-breakup-with
A mouthful I know....but yes, avoid these men cos until they really end their relationship with their girlfriend/wife/husband/boyfriend/others, you'll forever be waiting and no, they'll never leave the other woman cos they have a soft spot for them too. So you lose. Go find better.
4. Mr Fair Weather
Well, they only want to have a good time with you but once you start to have problems and issues, they bolt or they get nasty and don't want to talk about it and become unreasonable. They're a sweetheart as long as things are rosy, nice and dandy. But cue in problem, they bolt.......an ex-bf of mine was having exams and during his revision period of about a week (or was it 10 days? whatever), I fetched him dinner every night, going out of the way to some of the not-so-convenient places to buy his favorite food after work every night while patiently waited for his exam to be over so he could spend time with me. Then after his last paper, he called to say he's taking the bike to the workshop instead and won't spend any time with me. Naturally I was upset but the moment I got upset, READ: issue/problem, he got even more upset and unreasonable, saying I'm trying to ruin his day....nice...very nice....Oh...another fair weather guy was so damn devoted initially, needing to see me everyday and all but then I started having some problems at work that got me quite depressed. I told him about feeling really down and all and suddenly, he totally disappeared into thin air without so much of a proper "dumping process".....pfff....as long as you smile sweetly at him and not flare up or have any issues or complaint, you'll have a great relationship....works well if you're a robot
5. Mr Violent
Violence=Bad. 'Nuff said...but I feel sorry that some women can't break out of abusive relationship and also, abuse doesn't have to be just physical...it can be emotional too. That Mr I'm-not-over-my-ex I mentioned earlier was emotionally abusive too...he told me in my face that "Oh I'll never do more for you than I did for my ex"....how blatantly hurtful....and I was young and stupid and I put up with it....and it sucked when he was filling up lucky draw form for me and put his ex's birthday on the D.O.B....now if you put up with rubbish like that, you're letting yourself get emotionally abused....
6. Mr I'm-shopping-around-and-want-to-date-others-while-still-having-you-here
This is exactly what happened to my girl friend and happened to me too of course....the whole "I like you but I'm not sure and let's see how it goes but let's also see other people" thing is plain rubbish. If you have been dating for awhile and if you still wanna tell me that kinda stuff, well, then you obviously aren't that into me...move on, don't waste time.
7. Mr I'm-just-outta-relationship-and-don't-want-anything-serious
Okay, he just got his heart broken and is starting to date again and you're probably the first or second girl he's dating and he told you he's not really into anything serious but isn't gonna shun the idea of having a committed relationship if it goes well too. You know, the whole look-and-see approach? Well, I'm telling you, when you meet guys like that, run for the hills. Cos these men aren't ready at all for anything real. If you're after a good casual time without much commitment, then fine, but if you want a committed relationship? Next better player please! Cos they're just enjoying singlehood for now and not ready enough....
8. Mr Unsure/Unstable Career
He might not be jobless or anything extreme but it might be a case of whether he's gonna stay in the same country or take on any job that might impact the possibility of a relationship. It's true that men can't multi-task and they can only do and focus on one thing at a time. So if he focusing on making an important career decision and you're just starting to date him, well, then you gotta know that you'll never be his priority. His job is....and since you've just started dating, then chances are you won't be much of a deciding factor in his decision making....
9. Mr Lying Asshole
Well, it's really obvious but they can be so damn slick to make you fall head-over-heels in love with them....they tell you they miss you and you're the only one but actually they have a harem out there! And they'll never admit there's someone else and you never catch them red-handed or find evidence of them with someone else. He's a master of keeping all the girls out of sight of each other. They see you once every 2 weeks and once every week if you insist and look for them, otherwise, you're on rotational duty until he has gone through the rest of the girls and he finally calls you 2 months after you last met him....but they'll cleverly do just enough to keep you there in between, like texting you sweet nothings, or calling you just to say they miss you but they never pin down a proper day to have a proper date with you...everything's ad hoc....one advice: Run for the hills....they're very bad news
10. Mr I'm-so-in-love-with-myself
It's another word for selfish...they can be perfect in every sense, except that they're just too self-centered and self-obsessed and they do everything THEY want and never think about whether you want it or consider your needs...some men are like that. The type that'll give you the non-creamed side of the Oreo if you twist one open....one cheating bastard I dated is so selfish that when he picked up the laudry out of the washing machine to hang, he only took his and left mine in there....and he would not share his food with me etc. Men like that would never be able to really love you and should be destined to be alone....and you see one, you shun one....
So here you got it. Men to avoid!
1. Mr I'm-not-over-my-ex
They come disguised as someone who's over their ex-es but they're not! And he doesn't even have to be just freshly out of a relationship cos I dated a guy during my uni days who was totally not over his ex despite they've broken up for some time already. Not only did he talk constantly about her, he even used to compare me with his ex and say stuff like "Oh she (the ex) would never do this" or "Oh she loves this color of nail polish too" (I still remember this very vividly...he said it while we were in Guardian Pharmacy....the one in Ang Mo Kio).....And stupidly, I put up with him for 1.5 year...it was the worst 1.5 year cos my self-esteem took such a bad beating after being compared to someone whom he was pining over......If you sense that he's not over his ex, leave.
2. Mr Jealous-possessive-and-bad-temper
It's normal to be jealous but extreme jealousy is bad news cos it means the guy's so insecure that he's got a bit of a psychotic edge. One guy I dated got so damn jealous when I went out for a drink with a guy friend whom I've introduced him to (to make him more comfortable...well, didn't work obviously). He made me go drinking with him the next day on an empty stomach. Naturally, being a loser drinker who once got a concussion from passing out with too much drink, I got tipsy after one drink on an empty stomach and I said I needed to go home cos I was feeling ill...jealous boy got so peeved that while driving home, he angrily jerked the car to a stop in the middle of the road on a hissy fit!!! WTF!? I got a whiplash and when I finally got home, I was puking and he pushed me to the toilet floor saying "How come you can drink with your guy friend but when you drink with me, one drink and you want to go home and now you're puking?"....WTF!!!!!!! So yes, no Mr. Jealous-and-bad-temper please!!!
3. Mr I-have-a-soft-spot-for-you-but-I-have-a-girlfriend/wife-whom-I'm-about-to-breakup-with
A mouthful I know....but yes, avoid these men cos until they really end their relationship with their girlfriend/wife/husband/boyfriend/others, you'll forever be waiting and no, they'll never leave the other woman cos they have a soft spot for them too. So you lose. Go find better.
4. Mr Fair Weather
Well, they only want to have a good time with you but once you start to have problems and issues, they bolt or they get nasty and don't want to talk about it and become unreasonable. They're a sweetheart as long as things are rosy, nice and dandy. But cue in problem, they bolt.......an ex-bf of mine was having exams and during his revision period of about a week (or was it 10 days? whatever), I fetched him dinner every night, going out of the way to some of the not-so-convenient places to buy his favorite food after work every night while patiently waited for his exam to be over so he could spend time with me. Then after his last paper, he called to say he's taking the bike to the workshop instead and won't spend any time with me. Naturally I was upset but the moment I got upset, READ: issue/problem, he got even more upset and unreasonable, saying I'm trying to ruin his day....nice...very nice....Oh...another fair weather guy was so damn devoted initially, needing to see me everyday and all but then I started having some problems at work that got me quite depressed. I told him about feeling really down and all and suddenly, he totally disappeared into thin air without so much of a proper "dumping process".....pfff....as long as you smile sweetly at him and not flare up or have any issues or complaint, you'll have a great relationship....works well if you're a robot
5. Mr Violent
Violence=Bad. 'Nuff said...but I feel sorry that some women can't break out of abusive relationship and also, abuse doesn't have to be just physical...it can be emotional too. That Mr I'm-not-over-my-ex I mentioned earlier was emotionally abusive too...he told me in my face that "Oh I'll never do more for you than I did for my ex"....how blatantly hurtful....and I was young and stupid and I put up with it....and it sucked when he was filling up lucky draw form for me and put his ex's birthday on the D.O.B....now if you put up with rubbish like that, you're letting yourself get emotionally abused....
6. Mr I'm-shopping-around-and-want-to-date-others-while-still-having-you-here
This is exactly what happened to my girl friend and happened to me too of course....the whole "I like you but I'm not sure and let's see how it goes but let's also see other people" thing is plain rubbish. If you have been dating for awhile and if you still wanna tell me that kinda stuff, well, then you obviously aren't that into me...move on, don't waste time.
7. Mr I'm-just-outta-relationship-and-don't-want-anything-serious
Okay, he just got his heart broken and is starting to date again and you're probably the first or second girl he's dating and he told you he's not really into anything serious but isn't gonna shun the idea of having a committed relationship if it goes well too. You know, the whole look-and-see approach? Well, I'm telling you, when you meet guys like that, run for the hills. Cos these men aren't ready at all for anything real. If you're after a good casual time without much commitment, then fine, but if you want a committed relationship? Next better player please! Cos they're just enjoying singlehood for now and not ready enough....
8. Mr Unsure/Unstable Career
He might not be jobless or anything extreme but it might be a case of whether he's gonna stay in the same country or take on any job that might impact the possibility of a relationship. It's true that men can't multi-task and they can only do and focus on one thing at a time. So if he focusing on making an important career decision and you're just starting to date him, well, then you gotta know that you'll never be his priority. His job is....and since you've just started dating, then chances are you won't be much of a deciding factor in his decision making....
9. Mr Lying Asshole
Well, it's really obvious but they can be so damn slick to make you fall head-over-heels in love with them....they tell you they miss you and you're the only one but actually they have a harem out there! And they'll never admit there's someone else and you never catch them red-handed or find evidence of them with someone else. He's a master of keeping all the girls out of sight of each other. They see you once every 2 weeks and once every week if you insist and look for them, otherwise, you're on rotational duty until he has gone through the rest of the girls and he finally calls you 2 months after you last met him....but they'll cleverly do just enough to keep you there in between, like texting you sweet nothings, or calling you just to say they miss you but they never pin down a proper day to have a proper date with you...everything's ad hoc....one advice: Run for the hills....they're very bad news
10. Mr I'm-so-in-love-with-myself
It's another word for selfish...they can be perfect in every sense, except that they're just too self-centered and self-obsessed and they do everything THEY want and never think about whether you want it or consider your needs...some men are like that. The type that'll give you the non-creamed side of the Oreo if you twist one open....one cheating bastard I dated is so selfish that when he picked up the laudry out of the washing machine to hang, he only took his and left mine in there....and he would not share his food with me etc. Men like that would never be able to really love you and should be destined to be alone....and you see one, you shun one....
So here you got it. Men to avoid!
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